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How Coercive Control Works
The mechanics of control: how it starts, what it looks like in money, faith, technology and housework, and where it ends.
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Mistaking Control for Love
The hardest control to recognize is the kind that feels like the love you learned as a child.
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Recognizing Control Jul 13, 2026 · 15 min read
Narcissism Is Not a Male-Only Problem
A woman can be the narcissist. A man can be the survivor. The facts are more complicated than the story…
Recognizing Control Jul 11, 2026 · 16 min read
Why Were They So Good at First?
It was real. That is the answer almost nobody gives you, and it is why you are still waiting for…
Recognizing Control Jul 8, 2026 · 19 min read
How Abuse Kills: The Two Endings Nobody Counts
About half of American women who are murdered are killed by a partner, and 26,858 American men have died the…
Recognizing Control Jul 6, 2026 · 7 min read
Nobody Took Your Friends
Isolation in an abusive relationship rarely looks like being forbidden. The research finds the network stays the same size. What…
Recognizing Control Jul 4, 2026 · 14 min read
Is My Partner Tracking My Phone? Read This Before You Go Looking
Half of adults have been through tech-enabled abuse and most never put a name to it. Before you check your…
Recognizing Control Jun 19, 2026 · 8 min read
You Don’t Need Them to Lie to You Anymore
Gaslighting got so popular it stopped meaning anything, which left the people living inside it with no word that gets…
Recognizing Control Jun 15, 2026 · 13 min read
Financial Abuse: When You Have to Ask for Your Own Money
It shows up in an estimated 99 percent of domestic violence cases. Roughly 78 percent of Americans do not recognize…
Recognizing Control Jun 1, 2026 · 10 min read
It Was Never Love. It Was Relief.
Trauma bonding is usually explained backwards. The moment the tone changes back and your shoulders drop isn't love, it's relief,…
Recognizing Control May 26, 2026 · 15 min read
The Most Dangerous Month of Your Life
Just leave is the worst advice in this subject. Leaving is the most dangerous part, 30% of these deaths happen…
Recognizing Control May 18, 2026 · 8 min read
They Told Everyone First
A smear campaign isn't revenge for leaving. Most of it happened years earlier, and the technique behind it has been…
Recognizing Control Mar 3, 2026 · 13 min read
Spiritual Abuse: You Can’t Win an Argument With God
You brought up something that hurt you. What came back was not an answer, it was a verse. What that…
Recognizing Control Jan 11, 2026 · 13 min read
You Could Say No. You Just Couldn’t Afford To.
There's a version of consent that isn't refusable. You say yes because refusing costs more, and then every yes gets…
