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Is It Anxiety, or Is My Relationship Actually the Problem?
Sometimes anxiety is the malfunction. Sometimes it's the smoke detector. Here's how to tell the difference.
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Recognizing Control Jul 6, 2026 · 7 min read
Nobody Took Your Friends
Isolation in an abusive relationship rarely looks like being forbidden. The research finds the network stays the same size. What…
Is My Partner Tracking My Phone? Read This Before You Go Looking
Half of adults have been through tech-enabled abuse and most never put a name to it. Before you check your…
Recognizing Control Jun 27, 2026 · 9 min read
Is It Abuse If They Never Hit You?
No bruise, no police report, nothing you could describe to a friend. That's exactly what keeps people stuck arguing with…
Recognizing Control Jun 19, 2026 · 8 min read
You Don’t Need Them to Lie to You Anymore
Gaslighting got so popular it stopped meaning anything, which left the people living inside it with no word that gets…
Recognizing Control Jun 15, 2026 · 13 min read
Financial Abuse: When You Have to Ask for Your Own Money
It shows up in an estimated 99 percent of domestic violence cases. Roughly 78 percent of Americans do not recognize…
Recognizing Control Apr 20, 2026 · 7 min read
Weaponized Incompetence: When “I’m Just No Good at That” Is a Strategy
If they're capable everywhere except the things you need them capable at, that's not a skill gap.
Recognizing Control Mar 3, 2026 · 13 min read
Spiritual Abuse: You Can’t Win an Argument With God
You brought up something that hurt you. What came back was not an answer, it was a verse. What that…
Recognizing Control Jan 11, 2026 · 13 min read
You Could Say No. You Just Couldn’t Afford To.
There's a version of consent that isn't refusable. You say yes because refusing costs more, and then every yes gets…
Recognizing Control Jan 7, 2026 · 7 min read
Am I the Narcissist?
The people asking that question almost never are. But the real answer is more useful than a free pass.
